Masculinity or femininity

Until quite recently, roles for men and women were fixed and quite clearly defined. Men were supposed to put bread on the table. Women, are supposed to be at home and mind the kids.

Times have changed.

Today, these roles are quite diffused. A close male friend is a full-time home-maker while his wife has a full-time job. Chances are today, if you are a female, you are more educated, and have a full-time job, and possibly command a higher income than your mother.

Perhaps this is a time for men to embrace their inner femininity and for women, their inner masculinity. By this I don’t mean sex – which is the anatomy of a person. I mean, gender.

Each of us, man or woman, possesses both inner masculine and inner feminine qualities. The search for purpose, mission and initiative summarise the core of masculine qualities. For the feminine, the longing for love and tenderness is the essence.

Men, it takes a lot of courage, but it is okay to reveal your feminine, tender side. Women, you may not feel too comfortable, but try to take lead using your masculinity to bond with your man.

Recently, a friend said that he was very touched when his wife surprised him with a sandwich for lunch at his office. She had a lunch appointment, and took the effort to pack a sandwich for him before that. She said, “Darling, I know that you would be too busy to eat, so I packed this sandwich for you!” The husband replied, “I must be the luckiest person in the world!” Then she said, “Who is luckier – you or me?”

The wife said that she was lucky because he took the effort to be tender toward her, using his feminine essence to bond with her. When she felt loved, she showed initiative (her inner masculine essence) to pack lunch for her husband.

I think this couple shows a beautiful dance piece. Sometimes he leads, and at other times, she leads. It is a dance of flow – a dance that brings out the beauty of each of the essence.

Ladies, are you waiting to be invited for a dance? Take the first step and invite your partners, your guys will love it!

Gentlemen, show the tender side of you to your partners. Be surprised at what would happen.

Remember, there is a complementary essence within you. Harness it, and you will live life more fully.

Enjoy!