Until quite recently, roles for men and women were fixed and quite clearly defined. Men were supposed to put bread on the table. Women, are supposed to be at home and mind the kids.
Times have changed.
Today, these roles are quite diffused. A close male friend is a full-time home-maker while his wife has a full-time job. Chances are today, if you are a female, you are more educated, and have a full-time job, and possibly command a higher income than your mother.
Perhaps this is a time for men to embrace their inner femininity and for women, their inner masculinity. By this I don’t mean sex – which is the anatomy of a person. I mean, gender.
Each of us, man or woman, possesses both inner masculine and inner feminine qualities. The search for purpose, mission and initiative summarise the core of masculine qualities. For the feminine, the longing for love and tenderness is the essence.
Men, it takes a lot of courage, but it is okay to reveal your feminine, tender side. Women, you may not feel too comfortable, but try to take lead using your masculinity to bond with your man.
Recently, a friend said that he was very touched when his wife surprised him with a sandwich for lunch at his office. She had a lunch appointment, and took the effort to pack a sandwich for him before that. She said, “Darling, I know that you would be too busy to eat, so I packed this sandwich for you!” The husband replied, “I must be the luckiest person in the world!” Then she said, “Who is luckier – you or me?”
The wife said that she was lucky because he took the effort to be tender toward her, using his feminine essence to bond with her. When she felt loved, she showed initiative (her inner masculine essence) to pack lunch for her husband.
I think this couple shows a beautiful dance piece. Sometimes he leads, and at other times, she leads. It is a dance of flow – a dance that brings out the beauty of each of the essence.
Ladies, are you waiting to be invited for a dance? Take the first step and invite your partners, your guys will love it!
Gentlemen, show the tender side of you to your partners. Be surprised at what would happen.
Remember, there is a complementary essence within you. Harness it, and you will live life more fully.
Enjoy!
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
The ABCs of Success
Accept people as who they are and not for what you want them to be
Believe in yourself
Change is the only constant
Don’t give up
Enjoy this moment
Failure is one step toward success
Grow up, not old
Hope always
I am the most important person in the world
Just do it!
Keep going
Laugh always
Make things happen
Never look back with regret
Open your eyes widely
Practise kindness no matter how you are treated
Quit is not a word that describes you
Relax, things will soon change
Surprise others by your generosity
Turn problems into potential
Understand yourself to understand others
Visualise success
Wonder more than worry
X-factor it: outward beauty reflects inward joy
You-win, I-win
Zeal gives energy.
Believe in yourself
Change is the only constant
Don’t give up
Enjoy this moment
Failure is one step toward success
Grow up, not old
Hope always
I am the most important person in the world
Just do it!
Keep going
Laugh always
Make things happen
Never look back with regret
Open your eyes widely
Practise kindness no matter how you are treated
Quit is not a word that describes you
Relax, things will soon change
Surprise others by your generosity
Turn problems into potential
Understand yourself to understand others
Visualise success
Wonder more than worry
X-factor it: outward beauty reflects inward joy
You-win, I-win
Zeal gives energy.
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Women Are Important
March 8th is International Women’s Day. This post is especially for you, women!
The world would be different without women. Think of Florence Nightingale, Mother Theresa and Rosa Parks. These women changed the world.
In 1963, a woman was passed over for a promotion in favour of a man whom she had trained. Frustrated, she retired and founded Mary Kay Cosmetics, Inc. for the purpose of enriching women’s lives. Today, Mary Kay Cosmetics has more than 800,000 representatives from 38 countries, with Singapore being the latest addition, with its first anniversary this week. Mary Kay Ash Charity Foundation seeks to fight against family violence and cancers affecting women.
According to Mary Kay, everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying, “Make me feel important.”
To the women reading this blog, know that you are important.
Along my life’s journey, I have worked with hundreds of women – ranging from young girls, to independent career women, to single mothers, to victims of family violence. A lot of these women are, to say the least, very intelligent, capable and beautiful. However, a common factor I see in them is their lack of confidence.
Women, don’t believe it when people say that you are slow and stupid. Do not believe the lie when they say you are not capable of showing leadership.
Do not be afraid when your husband shouts at you because he is equally or more afraid, or else he would not shout at you to exert his strength.
You are important – inside and out. The best thing you could do to yourself is to love yourself as who you are. You do not need validation from people around you. Once you love yourself, your confidence will show in a form of a quiet assurance. And people will respect you more.
Look at yourself in the mirror today and say, “I love you for who you are! You are important!”
And as you carry the quiet dignity within you, do not allow people to push you around. Like Mary Kay, refuse to be a victim, seek to be proactive. Make a difference.
But for now, know that you are important. And celebrate.
Because today is your day, do something to show that you are important – to yourself.
And cherish the time you have – to yourself!
The world would be different without women. Think of Florence Nightingale, Mother Theresa and Rosa Parks. These women changed the world.
In 1963, a woman was passed over for a promotion in favour of a man whom she had trained. Frustrated, she retired and founded Mary Kay Cosmetics, Inc. for the purpose of enriching women’s lives. Today, Mary Kay Cosmetics has more than 800,000 representatives from 38 countries, with Singapore being the latest addition, with its first anniversary this week. Mary Kay Ash Charity Foundation seeks to fight against family violence and cancers affecting women.
According to Mary Kay, everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying, “Make me feel important.”
To the women reading this blog, know that you are important.
Along my life’s journey, I have worked with hundreds of women – ranging from young girls, to independent career women, to single mothers, to victims of family violence. A lot of these women are, to say the least, very intelligent, capable and beautiful. However, a common factor I see in them is their lack of confidence.
Women, don’t believe it when people say that you are slow and stupid. Do not believe the lie when they say you are not capable of showing leadership.
Do not be afraid when your husband shouts at you because he is equally or more afraid, or else he would not shout at you to exert his strength.
You are important – inside and out. The best thing you could do to yourself is to love yourself as who you are. You do not need validation from people around you. Once you love yourself, your confidence will show in a form of a quiet assurance. And people will respect you more.
Look at yourself in the mirror today and say, “I love you for who you are! You are important!”
And as you carry the quiet dignity within you, do not allow people to push you around. Like Mary Kay, refuse to be a victim, seek to be proactive. Make a difference.
But for now, know that you are important. And celebrate.
Because today is your day, do something to show that you are important – to yourself.
And cherish the time you have – to yourself!
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